What would you do?

[Pantherdreams]

re: the grabbing. Warning if not an immediate T (Had to be there situation - grab and latch, grandpa "woah there sonny", hand on arm "hey what about") Can't put hands on officials but context here may make the difference between a warning to avoid it happening again or an immediate T.

re: taking it personally. The problem here is again context. 'Taking it personally' can mean that you are taking something as a personal afront but it is also an idiomatic expression (merriam-webster if you don't believe me) that can mean generally upset or offended by something. He could simply be questioning why it upsets or bothers you , particularly if his behavior has been allowed in other games by other officials.

Regarldess using the if it walks like a duck, talks like . . . theory. T him the duck up.