Boy dunks during halftime of girls game....

[SC Official]

Blame coaches. They are the ones who write the rules and clamor for "consistency," leading to the black-and-white adjudications that you don't care for.

And again, blame officials who were ignoring POE's for years.

Also technology. When the film shows that one official is calling two hands on the ball handler and the other is "letting 'em play," that's a problem. Hence the implementation of automatic fouls.

This is what I heard someone say one time...

Between the free throw lines = RSBQ, automatics
Drives to the basket = start, develop, finish

I think this way when I officiate.