T Worthy?
I have learned that a complaining coach usually gets a warning first, but personal attacks on your integrity can merit an immediate T.
Freshman Girls, 4:00, few fans. First minute, B1 holding the ball over her head in the FC, directly in front of Coach A. A1 reaches for the ball, and gradually contacts the arms of B1, and eventually displaces her. This took a few seconds. The problem was, just before I whistle for the foul, Coach B says "That's a foul!". Coach A immediately says to me, softly, "You weren't going to call that until he said something. I need you to call your own game". Caught me off-guard, I just replied "That had nothing to do with it". T? |
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You can head this off by looking at coach B immediately after the whistle with the "I've got this" look -- and maybe even use those words.
If you have time for a longer talk "If you (or he) yell 'foul' and it isn't, we just play on. But if I blow my whistle and then say 'oops' it's a big deal. So, my whistle will always come after you could say something." Or, to coach B -- you know, if you keep yelling for the call before I can make it, it looks like you are influencing my call and I might not be able to make it. |
We had a coach like this last night. He was always faster than us on the call and of course would call out whether he was right or not. Not loud enough where anyone but the tableside official could hear. I really didn't care and it didn't affect anything.
But I have a line for a coach who thinks he's better than us cause we're slow: "I know you're faster, coach, but we actually have to be right." |
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At some point in the third quarter the HC and one of his assistants said, after a foul, that I was calling a lot and to "let them play". I responded with a very sarcastic line "It was my plan when I left my family at 6PM to blow my whistle this much and officiate such a sloppily played game." I said this while looking at them both. Would I recommend this line to other officials probably not. But shortly after that the HC complained, again, about a call in a game in which he team was up 40. I told him flat out that I'm done with him and my patience are gone for the remainder of the game. 2 minutes later I have a block charge call that goes against him 80 feet away, he yells something across the court for lowering the shoulder, I T move one, game ends like 4 hours later. Out of curiosity do others on here get so fed up with a game, like a huge sloppy blowout that you remove all rope for the winning team and their complaining? |
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Of course I was tableside C and was right in front of him. I looked at him, turned and looked at the scoreboard, and looked back at him again. Didn't say a word, might have shaken my head a little bit. Went to the other end of the floor. Some coaches just can't turn it off. Head a story about a coach who went out of his way to get whacked up 35 earlier this season. Also heard the coach was proud of it, too. |
"I need you to coach your players, not me." That's his warning.
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Somewhat along those lines, what advice do you have for responding to a coach who repeatedly comments to you about your partner's calls?
I'll be in front of the coach during play and he'll say stuff like "I know that's not your call but you gotta help your partner out." OR "Cmon, PLEASE talk to your partner!" I usually just ignore it, because it's not like he's asking me a legitimate question. Not sure if it's a divide & conquer strategy? Like the coach will suck up to one official while putting down the other? (NOTE: I"m SURE there have been times when it was reversed and I was the lead and a coach was complaining to my partner about me:)) Should it just be flat-out ignored? |
I wouldn't T for this, I wouldn't even warn the fouling team's coach. I'd let him know that was not the case and then I'd let Team A's coach know that I need him to let me make the calls.
No need to nuke it from orbit at this point. |
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I heard at a camp once that a clinician said to tell coaches "when the other ref transitions/rotates back then ask him why he made that call". However, I found that advice to actually undermine the crew's unity and facilitate the bias that coaches want to impose, so I never used it. What I tell coaches is something to the effect of this: "the official got a good look at the play, and reported what he saw (or did not call what he did not see)". |
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Could always go with the smart aleck response: hey, assistant coach, help me out with your head coach here. PLEASE explain to him what I expect. |
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"I have two partners over there who have a much better look at that play than we do. I'm not here to guess." |
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Keep it to the simple, "Coach, that's enough" and "Coach, no more." If it continues, simply whistle and T. |
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He looked at me and said thanks, never thought of it that way. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G920A using Tapatalk |
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That doesn't make it right but it's true. |
"If you keep yelling at me about what I am supposed to do, then you will not be able to stand very long" then walk away. Problem solved or just give the T if you have dealt with the coach earlier.
Usually they get the message. I do not pussy foot with coaches. You want to be big and bad, I can be worse. And I will win in the end. Peace |
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I kid, I know what you mean and I use a similar warning. It works. |
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And saying we don't have an emotional investment is balderdash. We are human. Sometimes we get angry, happy, sad, and we may try our best to keep these "out" but that's unrealistic. First you have to accept them in before you can deal with your reactions. None more true than an ahole coach that crosses the line and gets T'd up. Say what you want but there are times where I get pissed after the T because they were complete jerks. A very small percentage of people in life NEVER have emotion. They are usually sociopaths. I don't think I'm one of them. |
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When you tell them what can happen that is a "threat." I see nothing wrong with doing that when you are threatening them with what is going to be the result of their actions (like a T or playing time for a kid) then usually the get you. But you do all this other negotiating and then they try to make it about you. We need to focus on their behavior and what the behavior brings. I am a man, I am not going to be treated any thing but as I would treat them. If you want to act like a child, then you will be treated as such. Peace |
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Peace |
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As a great philosopher once said, “They Don’t Think It Be Like It Is, But It Do”. |
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My response to the blue statement is something to the effect of "do not insult my integrity". |
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I just ignored it, but when his team came back and won by a point, I wanted to ask him where my congratulations were. From now on, coaches don't get my respect till they earn it. I've dealt with too much crap this season. |
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No, He said it softly. You didnt call the contact. Somebody needed to remind you of Your Responsibility.
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