What is your philosophy

[Jake80]

Two different situations - Two different days.

1) R1 steals on the pitch. Ball beats runner easily. SS fields the ball two feet behind second base. Reaches forward and tags the sliding runner high on right thigh. Left foot already on the bag. I call safe. Coach disputes call as ball beat runner in plenty of time and should be called out. I say yes if fielder is in proper position but not if fielder has to reach to make tag.

2) Batter hits liner in the gap and trys for a double. Relay from outfield is good. Fielder has left foot on back (outfield side) of bag. Ball beats runner and fielder makes a swipe tag as runner is going head first into second. Area around second has about 3 inches of loose dirt so on the slide the runners arms are buried in the dirt. Runner says something "aw darn" or ##$#%$ wasn't listening that close. It may just have been because slide hurt but I interpret it as "damn, I shouldn't have tried for second". Now fielder may or may not have tagged the runner I couldn't tell. But defense did not make any misplay on the ball and it "looked like an out". I call out. Coach disputes saying a tag couldn't have been made.

What is your philosophy on these types of plays? If it "looks like an out" is it? Or do you call safe if you don't see a tag made?