New to this forum and GLAD I found it.

Re: game mgmt; had a partner last week come up with a new line of "instructions" during a pre-game meeting with the coaches (this was a 13U game but he said he now uses it at all of them) paraphrased as follows: "lastly coaches, if you have any questions during the course of the game, simply ask for Time, then approach us in a good sportsmanship manner so we can show the players how it is done correctly, and then we will be happy to explain our decision. If you choose to approach or question us in any other manner, we will show your players how to first ignore rude behavior and if it continues, remove the offender from the game. Any questions? Have a great game and good luck!"

I've tried that in the last five games and the coaches, including one known hothead, have been great during the games. When one of them did get a bit loud, I simply ignored him until he calmed down and then we had a civilized discussion. I know this won't work every time, but I think it is a good way to wrap up the pre-game meeting.

Personally, I would just delete the second sentence. I don't like to start games with threats. I've seen the negative attitudes that can create when some of my partners have said something similar. I prefer get games off on a positive note.

I don't give any behavior advice at the plate meeting, unless I know of a bad blood situation between the two teams in a previous game. Then I clearlly establish that I will have ZERO TOLERENCE in this game.

Otherwise, I apply the 3 P's. Personal, profane and prolonged. Personal and profane comments directed at me are instantaneous ejections. Prolonged takes a little more time, but if the offender does not react to a good hard stare, and maybe a "that's enough coach" comment then I dump him.