[Rich]

Originally Posted by seanwestref

Never say (n)ever! I'm not talking with the coach to appease him. Coaches need to know that you are approachable. If taking one minute to talk with him prevents him from holding a grudge against me for a call I made, or prevents him from complaining to the AD or my boss, it's worth it. I don't need to be a kiss-up, or say he is right, but the basic need for coaches is to know they are being heard. They may disagree with the call I made, and they may let me know about it, but communication is the key.



I hope he would be coaching his team instead of worrying about the official and coach having a civil discussion. In fact, I hope both coaches would be concerned with their team's play over my actions as an official, however if one desires a conversation, I will oblige.



If the coach gets personal, I walk away. Or give him a technical.



Who cares what everyone else sees? I have given several technicals (and I am sure you have as well) to coaches who have said things to me that no one in the crowd heard, and that not even their assistants heard. In such a situation, where no one else heard the comment, should I be thinking "oh, no one else heard that comment, if I give him a technical I will look bad". No. Let me reiterate. If you call a foul and someone yells "he didn't even do anything", do you let that affect you? No, because you know better than the guy in the crowd. You know what you saw, and you called it as such. Again, who cares what everyone else sees? We are not accountable to the crowd.

Reply as you may, this is my last post on this topic. We will have to agree to disagree.

Hey, do what you want to. But remember, there's a LOT of experience here giving you reasons why this is a bad idea. Your posts scream of inexperience and naivety. We dont stay away from coaches during timeouts to be d-bags, we do it because there's very little upside to it.