Philz - one thing I will say is that it's easy to be a Monday morning quaterback and say oh yeah, I would have T'd him up in a heart beat. Been there, done that.
But, as a newer ref, I feel for you and have second guessed myself at times. Most times I too say, I
shoulda been more forceful and next time I
will T em up. But, that event is gone, and we grow, learn, and become more seasoned.
I will say, in the past, I have been more tolerant, right or wrong, with the wreck league coaches, especially at the younger leagues, than I am with the older ages, MS, JV, and HS. But, as I gain more experience, watch, read, and learn more, I imagine that may change.......
and I'll whack em more and become less tolerant!