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The key is to "work together" as a Team. Once you've "T'd" him up, stay away. Certianly you don't want to allow anyone to completely make a mockery of either you or the game, but the situation described is one where you've done what you needed to do, gave the T, discussed it with your Partner (who made the decision to ignore the seat belt) and now it's up to your partner to give the second T. This is where you have to trust your Partner (and they you) and their judgement as to when or if the second T is warranted.

I had a very similar situation in a playoff game seveeral years back - intense game, intense crowd, etc. I T'd the coach who needed and wanted one. My Partner then took over and took the coaches gruff, etc. for the rest of the game, BUT it was well communicated by my Partner that the coach was (and did) stay off my case for the rest of the night. Definitely a situation where I gained a great deal of respect for my Partner and a solid appreciation for "working together as a team" with my co-official. I was very thankful that we had pre-gamed such a situation and once it began to unfold, we were prepared.

If there is a lonelier situation than being a referee who just T'd a coach, then it's being a referee at odds with the coach AND their Partner. Trust your Partner, and their discretion, to issue the second T - always best if BOTH of you see the coach as deserving versus a "one-on-one" battle.

Now IF your Partner doesn't have your back and lets the coach run crazy, then it's a LONG ride together back home.