scyguy,
I like to think of it as "reaching a consensus" through civilized debate...no one is in anyone's face, no one is threatening anyone...we are all just sitting at a computer and sharing our thoughts.
I have found that a civilized debate works wonders for one's logical and deductive reasoning skills, which ultimately should make you a better official, as you would be able to better defend yourself if necessary (likewise, should anyone resort to invective, your patience is fortified if you refrain from reciprocating with more invective).
I concede that I am not an official, and do not have the benefit of y'all's training.
Dan, well, he has a tiny little brain, so you shouldn't expect much from him.
(no offense intended Dan...I'm just in a giggin' mood today)
Personally, I think that reading and writing on this board will help me become a better spectator...heck, I'm even considering the notion of becoming an official myself.